Chey’s Lounge

I was wondering what we’re supposed to do to teach children to manage their emotions. I feel like I don’t have control over myself at all times. I think it stems from childhood, but it’s not like I didn’t know good versus bad. It’s not like no one told me to shut up or stop crying, I knew that. In reality, it’s advice most akin to the real world; however, the real world is awful. Parents, the village, etc., need to teach kids how to manage their emotions. Do not ask me how, I do not know, and honestly, if I did know how, for some, it wouldn’t apply to every kid. 

Everyone has a limit, right? My tolerance to deal with bad situations is interesting. I can endure poorly. I think I need to be told to get in my lane sometimes; everyone does. I feel like people don’t really like to. There are times where I can’t help but speak out. I don’t like seeing people treated unjustly or unfairly. I don’t like when people don’t take the whole of a situation into account before acting. I can’t say I never do it myself though. When I’m acting on emotion, it’s just crazy, honey. I get so frustrated, and I have no idea what to do with the frustration. Sometimes, the only thing that helps is time. Maybe we should be trying to make ourselves feel better without feeling sorry for ourselves? Idk what to do about anything. 

I need to practice self-control. The big issue is this: no one wants to be around someone practicing. It feels best to avoid people. In all actuality, it’s gotta be the best solution. This is why it’s important to teach kids young. Don’t get me wrong, there are a number of people out there who have little tolerance for a child’s shenanigans or slow learning moments, but even the crabbiest person has a greater tolerance for a kid who is learning over an adult. It’s so annoying how people are just expected to know things. Some people need to be expressly taught how to do things. Some people may need repetition. Even if you can learn well just from observing, watching and learning isn’t the same as making a mistake or doing something in an inefficient way and having it immediately corrected. You can watch someone play piano for 40 hours, you’re not going to be better than the person who actually practiced themselves for four. 

I guess a lesson we can take away from this one is that we need to keep trying new things. Learning, thinking, and planning will only get one so far. There needs to be some action. You have to do things. You will fail. If I can accept failing, maybe I can finally learn French or take a risk that can change my future.